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Monday, June 27, 2011

8 years, 2 kids & Still no Marriage

I have been with a guy for 8 years and we have 2 kids, but we still are not married. What do you think?

I think this guy isn't going to marry you to be honest. 8 years and 2 kids later, the question at this point has to be why are you holding on? I don’t think relationships have a deadline for a marriage proposal, but if someone is good enough to be with for 8 years and 2 kids, why are they not good enough to marry. But more importantly, if you are a Christian and believe in the union of marriage, what are you teaching your kids. Would you want your kids to be in your position? Don't forget your kids are watching your lifestyle more than your words. What is mommy teaching her kids about relationships? I can't speak for this man, but I can say you have a decision to make yourself and you can't leave it up to a man that has not made a decision to marry the mother of his kids after 8 years.

Sunday, June 26, 2011

Her Love

Can I love her like there is no tomorrow?

I know I filled her heart with sorrow,

But she always loved me like there was more to follow,

Even though I had to borrow,

Her love that is.

We both know my love came with a high interest rate,

But her love was never late,

She would love me at any rate.

Even though I was often never there to receive the payments,

You still left your love at the front doorstep of my heart,

But my mischievous behavior had me stuck in the basement.

I was spiritually bankrupt,

Another word for corrupt.

Your love was a one in a million,

But even my intentions wasn’t worth a dollar,

Or even a dime,

Nonetheless, I was busy chasing nickels,

How could I forget she was my diamond?

I constantly sold myself cheap to a pawn shop,

But she would always purchase me back?

It must have been disappointing to find my love on a rack,

With a for sale sign,

How disappointing?

Why did she never resign.

I was a nice car with a broken engine,

Locked inside of a mental prison.

Despite my misbehavior,

She gave away a piece of her soul,

To bail me out of prison,

Her love was like a shovel

and her strength dug me out this hole,

Now my soul has arisen.

I could never repay.

But because of her,

I am not the man I was yesterday,

I was a boy once dressed in men clothing,

But thanks to her love I am growing,

Better yet, Now I am a Man

Written By: Deaushay Watts

Editor: Tyeicha Nesbitt

©2011 Deaushay L. Watts

Thanks for reading, be blessed!

Saturday, June 18, 2011

Follow Me

12:32 P.M. (Protect your Purpose by protecting your Gift)

Hello and I hope everyone is having a great day. I am constantly thinking of ways to inspire my readers and I have decided to simply write down my thoughts or just some of my random conversations in the form of a blog. The time will indicate the moment I put my thoughts onto paper and at the conclusion of the blog I will give it a title. So here we go, here is my first blog.

While working out in the gym yesterday I couldn’t help but think about the recent impact of my short stories. I never imagined a year ago I would be deployed, in the process of writing my first book, be in a relationship, and have a flourishing fan base. To this day, I am still extremely honored by the messages and comments I receive. After thinking about my recent success I really started to ask God why He has blessed me with such an amazing gift. I have always struggled with that very question, but through prayer, the encouraging words of friends and family, and my faith, I have started to use my gift to chase my dreams. It is amazing how God has given everybody a gift or a talent in order to experience His presence and His greatness. I know a lot of people including myself have asked this next question you are about to read. How God could give such an extraordinary gift to such an ordinary and sinful human being? Well today I encourage everybody to use their gift that God has given to them in spite of your struggles. All gifts are given freely, come with a choice, and will either bring glory to God or become manipulated by sin. I was talking to my best friend a couple of months ago and we were talking about finding your purpose in Christ. When you embrace your purpose in God you will naturally use your gifts in order to fulfill your purpose. Today if you are reading this blog I want you to chase your dreams, use your gifts, trust in God, embrace the love of God, and walk in faith. Everyone is a work in progress, but please use your gift because at any moment your gift could very well bring you a spiritual, emotional, or physical breakthrough. I have discussed your gifts in context with God, but there is also another side to this coin. When you DO NOT use your gifts, you will often experience resentment and never feel a sense of fulfillment. But even more important, Satan will attempt to use your gift as an instrument to defy your soul against God. It is amazing because everyone will naturally use their gifts in some fashion, but we must be very careful and protective about those gifts that God has equipped us with. Well, I am signing out! Thanks for all of your support and I look forward to your feedback. I know it’s an abrupt ending! But all my fans know I always have a rough landing! Lol

Written By: Deaushay Watts

Editor: Tyeicha Nesbitt

©2011 Deaushay L. Watts

7 tips to having a successful relationship

I talk a lot about relationships; here are some tips to having a successful relationship.

  1. God- A strong relationship with God will allow you to know how to love. I think most people have a desire to love & be loved, but when we embrace the love of God, He shows us exactly how to love.

  2. Natural Chemistry- Once again, somebody being a good person is great, but there must be a physical, mental, emotional, & spiritual connection. Being good will not be good enough after while, there must be a connection.

  3. Open Mind & Heart- Everyone has a past and the past should be mentally noted,but write all relationships plans in the sand because they are bound to become disrupted; therefore, have an open mind & heart.

  4. Forgiveness- People are not perfect and neither are you, forgiveness is mandatory for any long term relationship. The person apologizing must also not only ask for forgiveness, but actually work towards not repeating the same mistakes.

  5. Trust- Make it a point to give trust freely until proven otherwise. If you don’t trust your partner, you will lose hope, and if you lose hope, you have lost the relationship. Don’t forget, your words are only a measuring stick for your actions. We have to trust our actions more than words.

  6. Space- The most effective relationships understand the value of space. Don’t overcrowd your partner; give them time to miss you.

  7. Have Fun- Life has enough stresses within itself, make sure you have fun. The best relationships are when the two people are friends.

Written By: Deaushay Watts

©2011 Deaushay L. Watts

Tuesday, May 10, 2011

Don't forget to love yourself

Encourage people, but don’t forget to encourage yourself, love your neighbors, but don’t forget to love yourself, & pray for others, but don’t forget to pray for yourself. As you read this status, take the time to thank God for who you are; It’s not about what you do, it’s not about the job you have, & it’s not even about your future goals & ambitions, but the true gift is who you are as a person. Before we can appreciate & love anyone else, we must learn to appreciate & love the person in the mirror. I hope I have encouraged somebody today, God Bless!

Sunday, May 8, 2011

The Importance of a Spiritual Connection in a relationship

I am 25 years old and I have been around my share of heartbroken women. I have noticed some of the most hurt women are those who actually have misplaced faith and hope in a relationship destined to fail. I completely understand women don’t want an overly spiritual man, but most good men also don’t want overly spiritual women. I am always confused when I walk in church and see the women with the kids while the man is at home lying in bed watching a football game. By no means does going to church guarantee a good man, but it is certainly a good start. On to my second point, just because a man attends the church doesn’t make him a man of God. We as men will fail because no one is perfect, but a man of God understands the true value of a healthy relationship. Examine the person you are dating to ensure he isn’t just going to church for good looks, but discuss the word of God and I suggest you even pray together. I know this may sound lame to a bunch of females, but where has your past relationships gotten you without God. The time to consult God isn’t at the altar, but it should start when you are first dating that person. If you can go out on dates, sleep in the same bed; argue like a married couple, and etc, make sure there is a healthy spiritual connection. Last but not least, ensure your partner shares the same religious beliefs, if you think church every Sunday is the standard and he thinks church once a year is the standard, then there needs to be some good dialogue to come to a common agreement. Either way it goes, you will be praying to God, you might as well have His approval from the beginning.

A Mother’s Love (The Ultimate Sacrifice)

I never believed Superman could move an entire planet to another side of the universe, I never believed Spiderman could climb walls with his bare feet and hands, and I never believed Wonder Woman had the superhuman strength to rival Superman, but I do believe in the supernatural love of my mother’s love. Before I learned about the sacrificial love of Jesus I learned about the sacrificial love of my mother. How could God ever sleep when He has to hear the faith filled prayer of a mother? A mother’s love never sleeps; while the entire house is sleeping peacefully the love of a mother stands alongside a guardian angel and protects her family with the weapons of love. How can a man learn how to love? The answer is simple; watch the sacrifices of a mother’s love.

When I wanted the latest shoes she bought them, but she wore the same pair of shoes for years at a time. When I wanted to wear the latest fashion trend she purchased me new clothing, but she washed and wore the same outfit over and over again. While I was out playing a football game she was trying to figure out how to pay the light bill. When I was out partying and experimenting in the world she stayed awake until I came home. If the rest of the world turned their back on me today, I have no doubt in my mind my mother will still love me today, tomorrow, and forever more.

Dedicated to my beautiful mother Felisa Martin
Written By: Deaushay Watts
Editor: Tyeicha Nesbitt